East Week #6 - “TRUE LOVE WAITS”

I found a post in Jaeson Ma blog http://jaesonma.com/

is very useful for all the youth & young adult

who already in a relationship or going to get in.

East Week #6 - “TRUE LOVE WAITS”

A few years ago, I was in the middle of Hong Kong at Chater garden where more than 1,000 young people gathered to make a commitment to “not have sex till marriage.” I was deeply moved by this event, because I knew for these young people it was not an easy decision to remain pure in today’s society.

They asked me to get on the microphone and share why I have chosen to stay sexually abstinent till marriage. I shared with the crowd, “My name is Jaeson Ma, I am committed to live a life of purity, to not have sex till marriage, and till this day I am still a virgin!” They were shocked, but I wasn’t. I challenged them to do the same. I believe, it’s not impossible to stay pure in today’s society.

There are reasons why I choose to not have sex till I am married. Sexual immorality is a problem. When young people have sex outside of marriage it leads to sexually transmitted diseases, HIV AIDS, unwanted pregnancies, abortions because of irresponsible sex, relational problems, depression and even suicide.

My heart is broken when I hear stories of rape, when I read the newspaper and find out that a young person committed suicide because of a “bad break up” that involved sex, or how another girl aborted her baby because she didn’t want her parents to know or bring shame to her family, or another young man who contracted HIV because of having illicit sex. It’s not worth it.

Today, Hollywood tells us that casual sex with anyone is okay, that there are no consequences. Almost every film, TV show, and song on the radio talks about sex like its no big deal and there are no consequences, they make it seem like everyone is doing it, so why not you? If you want to be cool, if you want true love, HAVE SEX! That is a lie. True love waits, because love is not about sex, love is about trust, respect & commitment.

Let me be frank. God created sex and SEX IS GOOD! But sex is dangerous when it is not experienced within the boundaries and context of marriage. Here are a few reasons why I practice sexual abstinence…and why you should too.

1. Don’t forfeit your destiny – we all have a purpose and destiny in life. If we end up getting someone pregnant or become pregnant, it will make it harder to fulfill your life’s destiny if you are not ready to take care of a child. The only 100% sure way to make sure someone doesn’t get pregnant is abstinence.
2. Abortion is not an option – you may say, “Well, I can get an abortion!” If you are going to have sex, you better be ready to be a parent. Because sex is not just about you, sex is for pro-creation. To take a baby’s life, because it would be an inconvenience to you is called “irresponsibility.” Plus you don’t want to live with the guilt of having an abortion for the rest of your life.
3. There is no such thing as “safe sex” – condoms are not 100% safe, the only way to protect yourself 100% from STD (sexually transmitted diseases) is by not having sex till you are married.
4. Abstinence is good for your health - Some sexually transmitted diseases can cause infertility so that you can’t have children and even cancer.
5. Abstinence makes for happy relationships - If two people wait until they are ready then it makes for a happier and healthier relationship. There is more trust, less emotional baggage, and more respect.
6. Studies have shown that when people practice abstinence they are happier as adults, more successful, and more financially successful as well.
7. Self Respect – respect your body, your worth and value your self. Explain to your boyfriend/girlfriend why you choose to not have sex till marriage. If they try to manipulate you into sex, they don’t respect you and they are not worth dating. Remember, any sex without your consent is RAPE.
8. Honor God with your body – marriage is an institution created by God that involves love, trust, faith, & commitment. Sex is like fire - it can be a blessing or a curse. When a fire is burning within a fireplace it brings warmth and love to all those around it. But when a burning fire is not restrained in a fireplace, it has the potential to destroy anything in its path. Marriage is the fireplace of protection God has given to us to experience the gift of sex. To have sex outside of marriage is to commit adultery, which is not only a sin, but has the potential to not only hurt your self but hurt and destroy the lives of others.

Dare to be different. Commit to a life of purity. Respect yourself, be responsible with your future and live to honor God. I am a virgin, and I am PROUD of it! Even if you have already had sex before, now is not too late to begin living sexually abstinent, because it’s the best choice you can make for your life. Remember, true love waits. Save your heart for the one that you marry and don’t give yourself to anyone, but THE ONE. It will be worth the wait!

For more information on the “LOVE & PURITY” youth movement in Hong Kong go to:

www.holynet4u.net

God bless,

Pastor Jaeson